I'm feeling ready to get congrats' now on the baby. I think what it took was connecting with the midwife. She won't be the one to deliver this baby but she did reassure some of my fears of even being able to have a midwife and possibly.... a home birth.
Yup, I'm tentatively hoping for a home birth. Actually, a water birth to be more exact. I would love to have a water birth, whether that is at home or at the hospital. I think I would prefer a hospital water birth but hospitals in BC don't allow that... unless the woman was to refuse to get out of the tub... which I don't think would be to hard for me to do :) I might just be pretty good at being stubborn :) I'll be disappointed and scared if it ends with a c-section but as long as everyone is healthy I'll be fine with how ever it turns out.
She reassured me about being able to have a midwife even with having an over 40 BMI. The midwife group in the town that I live won't take women who have a BMI over 37 or 38. I was a little concerned that the group 20 min away would have a similar attitude. They were completely accepting and totally willing to be my midwife. If there are complications where they have to transfer care they can still, apparently, transfer care back post birth and assist with the post birth care of the baby and myself. It felt good to hear that is a possibility. Not sure how that would work out completely though.
They are going to do a little extra monitoring of me and the baby just to make sure the pregnancy is low risk. I will have three more ultra sounds to monitor the babies growth. Around 20 weeks, 29 weeks and 36 weeks. I think the ultra sound at 20 weeks will be at Women's Hospital. This has nothing to do with the midwife and everything to do with my sister's heart problems :) She was born with a pretty serious heart defect and my brother has a minor one too. When I had Livi they told me any future pregnancies should have their ultrasounds done at Women's, so they can do a fetal echo-cardiograph.
Jon and I, mostly me, are hoping to get one of those 3D ultrasounds done. We didn't get one for Livi because they were crazy expensive back then but they have come down in price a lot. I found a place for only $80. I think I can get Jon to spring for that :)
I'm convinced we are having a boy. With Livi I was terrified of having a son, but now I think I actually want one! I want a girl too. I can honestly say I will be ecstatic with either gender! We are going to find out the gender this time. We were surprised with Livi, chose with Sofie and are going to find out with our "boy". I will be really surprised if we have a girl :) I think we have our boy name too but Jon won't commit until we know for sure ... if you happen to remember our boy name from our last pregnancy it might be the exact same ;)